The Road Not Taken, The Mistake Not Made

As incomprehensible as this is to me right now, today could have been my 30th wedding anniversary. Years before I met my wonderful wife on the other side of the country, I was engaged. My first fiancée and I were supposed to be married on September 19, 1992.

The engagement ended in May and she moved out in June. (We had moved in together in January, 1992.) In all honesty, I think we were engaged because we were in our early 30s and thought it was time to be married. I liked that she was a bright person (she had a graduate degree in a science discipline) who liked sports. I think she liked the fact that I worked for the Orioles.

I consider myself very lucky not to have married this person, no offense to her intended–seriously. My wonderful wife, to whom I have been married for 23 years, is the kindest, cutest, sweetest and most wonderful person in the world. Yes, I used the word “wonderful” twice in the same sentence. So sue me…

We have much control over life outcomes. My first fiancée and I could have succumbed to inertia and married. Instead, we realized that was not the best decision we could make. The problem with making decisions is that while all decisions have consequences, we don’t always know what they are or will be when we make them.


No, I did not watch Oklahoma roll over Nebraska on Saturday, the first game after now former head coach Scott Frost was fired by Huskers’ AD Trev Alberts. As only Nebraska can, they waited one more game to fire the worst defensive coordinator in D1 football, Erik Chinander.

Despite the whining by Huskers’ fans about bad luck–last season they were the only NCAA football team in history to lose nine games in a season each by fewer than 10 points–most of the misfortunes of the Nebraska football program are self-inflicted. Like I wrote, we have much control over life outcomes.

Since probably none of you reading is a Huskers football fan (I’m not really one, anymore, and haven’t been for awhile) I won’t bore you with details. Suffice to say that decision-making at the top level of the athletic department has been more about lurching from one extreme to another instead of devising a sound plan and trying to stick to it.


The ordeal is over; no, repairs to the Z06 are not complete. I am no longer the owner of the car!

On Saturday, I received a text from a person in the finance department at the Ford dealership from whom I purchased the Mustang. He said my wonderful wife and I had to re-sign a few documents. Even though Arizona is a community property state, our cars are all titled differently. Her Corvette convertible is titled only in her name, the Cascada is titled only in my name, but the Corvette–and its successor, the Mustang–are titled in both of our names.

Unprompted by anyone, I thought it would be a good idea to take the title for the Z06 with us yesterday (yes, they are open on Sunday) and to find an opportunity to offer the dealership the title. The opportunity presented itself, the finance department was happy to receive the title even though the work has still not been completed and the Mustang is now fully paid for and then some.

Yes, I had always been surprised that the Ford dealership let me drive the Mustang home even though I still owned the car that was to be used as payment. This is the second time this dealer has come through for us. We sold the Cadillac ATS to them in April and they paid us substantially more than the local Cadillac dealer offered. If I sell the Cascada, a distinct possibility, they will get first dibs at buying it.

The Mustang is mine with no strings attached! I don’t care how long it takes for the Z06 repairs to be completed! I still need to get the license plate from the Corvette as it will be the Mustang plate and, of course, I need to retrieve a few personal items. However, I feel as if a giant cloud has lifted. Halle-frickin’-lujah!








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7 thoughts on “The Road Not Taken, The Mistake Not Made

  1. “The problem with making decisions is that while all decisions have consequences, we don’t always know what they are or will be when we make them.”

    If we knew the outcome of every decision, all of us would be a millionaire with a successful marriage, great kids and perfect health. Instead we have nearly become a second rate economy, with a divorce rate of around 50%, dysfunctional families with damaged kids and most folks with health issues to due to past lifestyle choices. As a species we are often prone to lousy decision making, and the problems it causes us down the road.

    “Good judgement comes from experience, unfortunately most experience comes from bad judgement.”


    1. “If we knew the outcome of every decision…”

      Exactly, DDM. That is the point and that is why I am not a big fan, I’m being polite, of people who are sure that every decision they make will work out without even a shred of realism.


  2. PTL that you are relieved of the Z06 issue. I am glad that something is working out for you and yours.

    Saturday, I watched the early part of the Sooner-Husker game. I knew it would be an OU runaway after on one series they sacked the Nebraska quarterback 4 times in a row. I am a fan of neither, it was just that there wasn’t any other game in which I was interested while I iced my surgically repaired knee after taking a short walk outside.

    I did watch later that night while my Arizona Wildcats beat the North Dakota State University Bisons. It was a close game but my Wildcats beat them at the end of the game. NDSU is no push over. They are the current Division II, er FCS Champion. They run a very efficient, powerful game and could play at the FBS level and do well.

    College football has always been more exciting than the NFL IMHO. High school football is even more exciting.


      1. I can never keep the NCAA’s football divisions straight. I just know that they are a football powerhouse in their division and a program not to underestimate. The University of Arizona is learning to never underestimate their opponents under our new coach. Now the trick is to get our opponents to underestimate us. We play at the California Bears next week. Our new coach reminds me of our late great coach Dick Tomey who was successful and cared about the kids in his program. I think President Robbins was correct in his selection of our new coach.


      2. Many thanks, Philip.

        Although I grew up in Baltimore, Maryland, for some reason I adopted Nebraska as my college football team at the age of 10. That they won the national championship that year (1970) no doubt played a role as did the sound of the name, Nebraska. After the retirement of Tom Osborne as head coach following their third national championship in four years in 1997, the Cornhuskers have never scaled those heights again, and I suspect they never will. In his last four years as head coach, Nebraska had a 49-2 record.

        They gave me a very long run as one of the powers of college football. I guess I should be grateful.


  3. I resemble DDM’s comments exactly. I have learned that to be successful one needs to control those things over which you have control and to leave to our higher power those over which we do not have control. You know where I stand when I refer to “our higher power”. You may believe as you choose.


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